My Story
I used to think I wasn't enough. That belief led me into a series of decisions I now understand were never really about the decision itself — they were about trying to prove something to myself that never quite landed.
I'm a single mom of two. I grew up in an Asian household with a tiger mom, and somewhere along the way I built myself a coping mechanism for everything — probably the longest list of coping mechanisms I've ever known in one person. It kept me safe. It also kept me stuck.
Some days I called it "being busy" — a respectable reason to avoid the one thing I actually needed to do. Other days I called myself lazy, for doing absolutely nothing toward the goal I said I wanted. Back and forth on that same spectrum, for years. I was never content either way — not when I was "productive," and not when I let myself rest.
What I didn't understand back then was that neither version of me was the problem. The busy-me and the lazy-me were both just coping — doing what they knew how to do, with what they had. I just never stopped to ask why, or what they were actually protecting me from.
That question — why do I keep doing this — is what Lenity is built around. Not another list of things to fix about yourself, but a way to finally hear the voice underneath the pattern, and give it something better to do than keep you stuck.
If any of this sounds familiar, I built the quiz for you. Take a few quiet minutes — I think you'll recognize yourself in it.
— Lenity